What defines the difference between success vs failure? Webster’s dictionary or us?
For years I measured success in metrics. How much money I would need to make, my grade point average, my career position (as far as seniority level), you get the point. I believe success is often equated to the monetary aspects of life (house, cars, money, etc.) It wasn’t until I entered college I gained a new mindset and started to think differently. My years of being in the work force also played a major role. Kudos to that, because my past experiences helped to open my eyes to what success truly meant for me. Now you see, success is another one of those words that’s objective. Everyone has their own standards and definitions accordingly. For some it changes. For some the criteria is set. Some learn what is over time and others know what it is from the get-go. I was in the category of learning what success meant to me. It took years of learning and listening to my heart. It took detaching myself from what is typically defined as success to find my meaning of the word.
It's the Happiness, Freedom, and peace for me!
I quickly learned that money is not the end all be all. It didn’t serve as a long term motivation for me. Sure, it worked for a while in my younger years but true success for me had nothing to do with money. If I am being honest, I wouldn’t care one bit about money if it weren’t needed to survive. Life is so expensive!! I know we could all relate to that statement. Instead I wanted the freedom to do what I pleased. I wanted to be happy. I wanted peace of mind and spirit. Frankly, success for me is doing what makes me happy and heading towards the life I want to live. (Manifestation is key)
Failure for me is nothing but an experience. I look at it as a learning process. In the past I looked at failure as all my short comings towards a goal I initially set in place. Did I truly “fail”? Not unless I gave up. Giving up is the only time the word failure permits. It’s an example of what not do to the for the next time. How to do something better. It signifies becoming one step closer to what the goal is.
So, for me, I define what failure is just as how I get to define what success looks like. A mindset is what it is. The next time you think you are “failing” remember that you get to define what failure means, same as you have the opportunity to change the situation.
Okay, by now I think you’ve seen the two commonalities between shopping and saving money for me. If you haven’t well it is quite my thing. I am a firm believer that you don’t have to break the bank to look good. The dresses above were both purchased on clearance with 70% off the already low price. With all the sales, deals, dupes, and creativity running wild amidst us, there really is no need to go above what’s in your pockets. Thrifting gives us the chance to explore multiple decades under one roof in the current decade. How cool is that!
What’s neat is by thrifting, saving money is not the best part. Finding unique items that you have yet to see anyone else in, or how about that cute little dress you can find for more than half off, my favorite … acquiring name brand pieces to your wardrobe for way less than retail value, all great reasons that make thrifting fun.
Now, I don’t go thrifting often but, when I do, I dedicate quite a portion of my time to find the best pieces possible. To do this, I have to find thrift stores in the best areas. Location matters! Location matters! Location matters! I cannot stress that enough. One of the tops reasons I hear people don’t like thrifting is because they fail to find anything “good”. It’s not because thrifting is bad, maybe, just maybe it’s the location. Try a different location before giving it another go.
The thrift store I go to the most is Goodwill. Think of Goodwill as a one-stop-shop. There, you can find the most random Knick knacks while finding some of the best vintage clothing. Depending on which one I go to determines the success of my shopping trip. Even though it’s the same company, the locations are different, which translates to the people in the surrounding areas being different. The ending result being different items.
Up next is Plato’s closet. This is one that I don’t tend to shop at often but now and then I take a peek inside to see if anything tickles my fancy. Sometimes I end up scoring big while other times not so much but that’s to be expected. Plato’s closet is a teen to young adult store that is more on the trendy side of fashion.
Once Upon A Child
Can’t forget about the babies and mommies! Once upon a child is great for mothers and expecting mothers. Offering gently used to new items for both babies and moms, the prices are some of the best. A bonus = they offer many unique sales throughout the year.
Location, pricing, and niche. Keep these 3 in mind when trying to find a thrift store to best fit your needs.
Quick Announcement: If you have clothes in decent condition you can always donate them to Goodwill, sell them to Plato’s Closet or Once upon a child.
If you’re reading this… it's not too late. Lol who doesn't love some Drake? But seriously it's not too late and it does apply to you. There seems to be a status quo surrounding anything we do in life. Just like rules, they are everywhere. I am here today to say to you forget the status quo. Break the status quo. Do your own thing and don’t be afraid. Don’t hesitate to do things a little different. And when you do your own thing be confident in all you do. If you ever for a second doubt what you are doing remember that some of the greatest dared to step outside the perfectly outlined box to try something different. In the end if we all do the same things “as expected” where is the fun in that? Where is the uniqueness?
I often hear the quote
“No one is you and that is your superpower” – Elyse Santilli
Then why don’t we take more advantage of it. We talk the talk so why not walk the walk. If being ourselves is our superpower then we shouldn’t by any means be trying to fit in or do the same as everyone else. I recently embarked on a new project and when I did I went about seeking tips that could benefit me on my new venture. The tips were across the board unanimous. Then I decided I would do a little research of my own actually analyzing some accounts to see what conclusions I could draw myself. After doing so, I quickly realized uniformity. What I was analyzing looked the same. The only difference was the name of the account I was analyzing. I then decided that I would march to the beat of my own drums. Yes, the tips given were amazing but they weren’t me. They didn’t represent me or what I wanted to do, not to mention my vision. In hindsight I had to pass. I had to pass on the status quo that was expected of me on this new venture I was heading towards. I knew that I wanted to be different. To be different one must perform differently. I didn’t want to be in the status quo but rather break it.
Sometimes doing so tends to be a little challenging especially when everyone goes right and you turn left. But in the spirit of being ourselves lets continue to take advantage of the best superpower there ever was. The one that is truly unique and cannot be copied. Break the status quo using your superpower!
Some wardrobe pieces will forever be a classic, especially since fashion is recycled. Do your closet a favor and spice it up with these must have essential staple pieces.
White Button Down
Behold, the all-rounder effortless piece. I absolutely love a high functional versatile piece as they can be paired with many outfits to serve looks. The ability to switch from casual to business to happy hour within a few seconds is everything. A white button down gives that ability. Pieces > items any day. You may be wondering what’s the difference. Pieces are essential, a staple, and offers versatility.
Camis, joggers, hoodies, T-shirts, leggings, and more, Forever21 and
https://www.nakedwardrobe.com/ offers some of the best selections. My favorite thing about basics is the comfort while looking cute. Basics are good for just about any season and style preference.
“Black cards, black cars, all black everything” Jay – Z
When in doubt think black. Perfect for any occasion, black is one of those colors that anyone can pull off. When I go shopping I automatically opt for the black if it’s an option, I didn’t realize this until I noticed my closet was more than 50% black. But, lucky for me that means easy pairing.
Once upon a time my favorite color was green until a few years ago when I fell in love with a clean aesthetic. Neutral colors are a must! So easy to style there’s almost no thinking required. Nudes, Browns, White, Grey, sand, ivory, cream, olive, khaki, etc.
Like a little black dress your wardrobe isn’t complete without a blocked heel. Blocked heels are the training wheels on your first bicycle before you become fully confident in going solo! The best thing is the accessibility. Blocked heels can be found pretty much anywhere shoes are sold.
They add style, flair, height, and comfortability.
No matter your style your closet will definitely have space for these pieces and thank you too!